what is life exactly?

Excerpt from a book I am reading..


He never fails to make me re-think my life. And the decision I make along my journey. His books make me ponder and go deeper within myself; hoping to find out the answers that perhaps only I have access to. Thank you to my inspirational writer.


Are You a Carrot, An Egg, or a Coffee Bean?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked. “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity—boiling water—but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another lever?

How do you handle Adversity? Are you a Carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

The Mayonnaise Jar and Two Cups of Coffee


When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full.  They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous “yes.”

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things–your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions–and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.

The sand is everything else–the small stuff. “If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

“Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your  spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first–the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”

Confessions Of A Young Banker – The Day I Snapped

Confessions Of A Young Banker – The Day I Snapped.

You can’t laugh at the same joke again & again, but why do you keep crying over the same thing over & over again?

Life as you deem it

So many people like to ask ‘ what is life? ‘ expecting the other party to know what it is all about. But one forgets that the other party is just as clueless as you. Life is how you deem it. How you view life, how you view yourself, how you view others, how you deal with things, how you feel, etc. All these are not something one can define so easily, much less the other party. Yet people still question.

How many of us actually deviates from the path and chase something we deem as important. It may be right it may not be; it may be ideal or perhaps not. So many controversies so many questions left unanswered. Yet life still goes on.

I guess all I want to say is..

No matter whatever happens, life still goes on. So just suck it up and move your ass forward. Time and tide waits for no man.

Why so complicated?

Why do people like to make life seem so complicated? It is just a simple process of growing up, of completing a life cycle. But people just have to deviate, have to prolong life, have to artificially create life, what for? Giving in to temptation, to greed, to power, to hate; but you ignore love, ignore life, ignore health, ignore helping others or letting others help you.

Why do humans hanker over things that are only shown on serials? Things that are perfect. Naive thinking. If those things do happen, then there is no need for shows anymore. ‘Cos all these were created out of fantasies, what people hoped to have but could not. If life was so perfect, there is no purpose in living it. It’d be so dull, so boring, without challenges nor change.

Overrated love, overrated sex, overrated everything.

People talk about ‘oh he’s the untouchable. He’s too high in power to bother about us’; ‘oh I won’t be able to succeed in life. I’m too dumb.’; etc etc. You never know if you never try. There is no one that is an untouchable (of course unless you’re referring to the caste system).. Everyone is a mere human being. No one more superior than the other. Yes you can be better at something, but it does not give you the right to lord over the other. The other person may be better than you in 10 other ways. As there is always someone worse off than you, there is also always someone who is better than you. Be humble and never forget that.

In life, there are so many question marks which will never get answered. Probably even till the day you die. But you know something? Be thankful you are alive and make a difference today. A small difference is all it takes to make things seem a ‘lil better. A small smile, a thank you, a welcome, a helping hand, etc.

Little actions, when accumulated, goes a long way.

Life gives you..

The Perishers – Sway

I talk to you as to a friend
I hope that’s what you’ve come to be
It feels as though we’ve made amends
Like we found a way eventually

A couple who have broken up come together again and talked. He feels as though they’re back to how they were in the past – friends. He hopes that she sees him the same way. That’s how he feels.

It was you who picked the pieces up
When I was a broken soul
And then glued me back together
Returned to me what others stole

She was the one who was always there for him, cleaning up the mess for him, comforting him, putting him back on his two feet.

I don’t wanna hurt you
I don’t wanna make you sway
Like I know I’ve done before
I will not do it anymore
I’ve always been a dreamer
I’ve had my head among the clouds
Now that I’m coming down
Won’t you be my solid ground?

& now, he’s asking her to be his cushion while he’s falling. (How irresponsible can he get?!) He does not want to hurt her anymore, yet he asks her to be his solid ground when he’s falling. That’s a really mean thing a guy can do. – we’re not together, but could you be there for me when I’m down?- How would the girl feel!

I look at you and see a friend
I hope that’s what you wanna be
Are we back now where it all began
Have you finally forgiven me?

& here he is asking for forgiveness. Telling her that he sees her as a friend, hoping she wishes for the friendship too. Asking if they’re back to how things were originally, and asking if she has finally forgiven him (seems like a pretty serious wrong he had committed for this phrase to be in).

You gathered my dreams in
When they all blew away
And then tricked them back into me
You saved me I was almost dead

& once again, she was always there for him. Helping him, comforting him, and saving him from losing himself totally. This lady here seems like a really nice woman, who stands by her guy and helps him w all she has. Yet this guy had hurt her so deeply she left. Now that they have crossed paths again, how does she view him I wonder.

Anyways, that is just my interpretation of the song. You’re welcomed to air how you view it. I’m just writing it in my pov.

Just for fun :)

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